by Maribel Dionisio
Sabi nga nila, ang pag-aasawa ay hindi parang kanin na isusubo at iluluwa na lamang kapag napaso. Marriage is a very big step that you take in life. Hindi ito biro kaya dapat paghandaan ito nang mabuti. Make the decision not only with your heart, but also with your minds as well.
To prepare getting ready for married life, there are seminars, workshops, and books to help you prepare for marriage.
Workshops and seminars for couples
There are two weekend workshops for those wanting to settle down. The first one ay ang Discovery Weekend, and the other one is the Cana Marriage Preparation ng CEFAM o Center for Family Ministries sa Ateneo.
These seminars will teach you the following:
1. Relationship assessment. Malalaman ninyo kung ano ang mga okay sa relasyon ninyo at kung ano ang dapat ayusin o baguhin sa pagsasama.
2. Proper communication. Tuturuan din kayong makipag-usap and makinig para iwasan ang pag-aaway na nakakasira sa relasyon.
3. Setting expectations. Sa mga seminars na ito, couples will also learn how to manage their relationship. We need to take time to learn kung ano ang dapat i-expect sa relasyon. Nakakabawas ito ng disappointment at away kung malinaw ang mga inaasahan o expectations sa bawat isa.
Seminars for individuals
There are seminars like RCW’s Reparenting the Child from Within seminar for individuals who want to be personally prepared for a lifetime relationship.
These seminars will teach us to manage our emotional baggage from childhood. Ito yung mga bagay na simula pa bata tayo, kinaiinisan na natin o nagti-trigger ng masasamang alaala.
Ang mga past traumas, hang-ups, at unresolved issues ay maaaring maka-apekto sa iba pa nating relationships kaya dapat nireresolve na ito nang maaga pa lang.
Additional reading
There are many excellent books that you can read to prepare yourself for marriage. I recommend that you read our book, “Thinking of Marriage” (Don Bosco Press 2011). With this book, you will realize that there is so much to learn that will make us happier
in our relationship.
Masaya ang maging in-love parati. It inspires us to live our lives fully with the help of our partners. We all want to have a great marriage, kaya’t ipaghanda nang maigi ang sarili at pagsasama for this lifetime commitment.
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For more information on the seminars, please inquire at the following contact details:
Discovery Weekend
Contact Person: Lala Denilla – DW Secretariat
Telephone Number: +63-2-4261271
Mobile Number: +63906-783-2140
Email Address: discoveryweekend@yahoo.com
Address: Room 307, 3rd Floor, Spiritual Pastoral Center (CEFAM), Seminary Dr.,Ateneo de Manila University, Loyola Heights, Quezon City, 1108
Website: http://discoveryweekend.org/
CANA: Marriage Preparation Workshop
Telephone numbers: (632) 426-4289 to 92
Address: Spiritual-Pastoral Center, Ateneo de Manila University Campus, Loyola Heights, Quezon City
Website: http://www.cefam.ph/MarriagePreparation.aspx
Reparenting the Child from Within
RCW Foundation Inc.
Telephone Number: (632) 436-0710 or 426-6832
Mobile Number: c/o Mae Sotacio – 0921-6332587
Fax no. (632) 436-0710
Address: 59 C. Salvador Street, Varsity Hills Subdivision, Loyola Heights, Q.C.
Website: www.rcwcares.org
Images: http://josevilla.com/
